My wedding day was a rollercoaster, thanks to my mother-in-law (MIL). My husband and I are very detail-oriented, so we meticulously planned everything. Our chosen colors were pink and black, and we wanted everyone to match for the perfect photos.
We asked our parents and grandparents to wear our wedding colors to ensure the photos looked cohesive. I personally told everyone about the color scheme and stressed how much it meant to us. Everyone seemed on board.
My husband’s grandparents went shopping to find clothes that matched our wedding party, which I found incredibly sweet. My mother and I shopped for my grandparents to make sure they also matched.
I offered to take my MIL shopping for an outfit, but she declined, saying she would go with her friends. I agreed and then forgot about it. At the rehearsal dinner, my mom asked my MIL about her outfit, and she mentioned a long dress in our wedding colors.
The next day, as I was getting ready in the bridal suite, my MIL arrived wearing a royal purple ball gown. She rarely wore makeup, so I was shocked to see her with neon blue eyeshadow and bright pink lipstick. Her husband had a matching tie. I was furious but chose to ignore it to avoid spoiling my big day.
During the photos, my father-in-law (FIL) asked how he looked, and I replied, “You and MIL stand out like sore purple thumbs.” He asked what I meant, and I explained that they knew the dress code and now looked out of place. He mentioned he wore what was given to him and would inform my MIL.
Later that night, my MIL confronted me about my comment. I asked why she had lied about her outfit. She admitted she never bought a dress matching our wedding colors and had planned to wear the purple gown because it felt more true to her.
I responded that was fine, I would fix the pictures in post-production. She insisted I would not alter anything since they paid for the photos. I told her any picture I posted with her in it would be altered on my end, so they had no control over what I did. I then excused myself and enjoyed the rest of my wedding.
My MIL often tries to make things about her, making comments like, “I am the mother of the groom; my opinion counts.” Or “I can make decisions too; I’m the mother of the groom, and we are helping pay for this wedding.”
My parents covered 70% of the wedding costs, while my in-laws paid for the photographer and rehearsal dinner. The photographer was their friend and charged them only $800 for the entire night. The rehearsal dinner cost $300 as they chose the cheapest options for everything.
In the end, I had to stand up for myself and make sure my special day stayed true to my vision. Despite the drama, I managed to enjoy my wedding day and focus on the joy of marrying the love of my life.
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4 thoughts on “I Edited My Mother-In-Law’s Looks in Our Wedding Pics Because She Didn’t Obeyed the Dress Code”
You did exactly what you should have done. Better still change her dress colors in the picture. I applauded you. It is your day. Not hers
So, you declared the color of her dress, for the pictures, was more important than a good relationship with your in-laws. Maybe she felt that color suits her better. Spoiled child attitude. Good luck with your future relationship. Oh, and grow up.
The bride has the right to choose her colors. The mil was the spoiled child that had to get her own way
You have every right to choose your colors and the mil is the one who doesn’t respect your wishes. Don’t let anyone tell you different.