Navigating the world of dating can feel like trying to thread a needle in the dark. Every move matters, and it’s tough to know the right thing to do. Today, I’ll share a story where being late ruined a first date.
The Date That Never Happened
I had a first date planned with a woman I met online. We agreed to meet for coffee at 2 p.m. I showed up on time, but at 2:10 p.m., I got a text from her asking if I was at the café. I said yes, and she replied, “I’m at home, but I’ll leave now and be there in 20 minutes.”
This annoyed me. Her text meant she was waiting to see if I would show up before she even left her house. I took the risk of arriving on time; she should have done the same. Was I wrong to feel this way?
I drank my coffee and left at 2:30 p.m. She still wasn’t there. At 2:45 p.m., I received a text from her asking where I was. I replied, “I finished my coffee and left at 2:30 when you still weren’t here as promised.”
Her response was a series of angry texts, accusing me of being terrible and doing everything wrong. She said I should have texted her to say I was leaving.
Is This Normal?
Do women really expect men to wait 45 minutes for them to show up late—especially when they’re late on purpose to make you wait?
It felt like a game or a test. Either way, she failed my test. I’d love to hear from women on this.
Was I in the wrong, or was she?
1 thought on “I Ended My Date When She Showed Up 45 Minutes Late, Now I’m Second-Guessing My Decision”
The polite thing to do was text back that you left as she texted initially her saying late. However she was not a first date worth waiting for since so tardy and her angry responses. Sounds like you escaped further encounters. First impressions are everlasting and significant. My first impression is that you are trustworthy and sticks to committments which cannot be said of her.