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I Ended My Date When She Showed Up 45 Minutes Late, Now I’m Second-Guessing My Decision

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Dating can sometimes feel like trying to solve a puzzle in the dark. Every move matters, and it’s hard to know if you’re doing the right thing. Today’s story is about a first date that took a wrong turn—and it all started with being late.

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Here’s how it went:

I had planned a first date with a woman I met through a dating website. We decided on a cozy little café for coffee at 2 p.m. I showed up on time, ready to meet her. By 2:10 p.m., I still didn’t see her, but my phone buzzed with a message. It was her, asking, “Are you at the café?”

I quickly texted back, “Yes, I’m here.”

To my surprise, she replied, “I’m still at home, but I’ll leave now. I’ll be there in about 20 minutes.”

I couldn’t believe it. So, she hadn’t even left her house yet? It felt like she was waiting to make sure I was already there before bothering to come. I was put off. I mean, I took the risk, showed up on time, and trusted she’d be there too. Shouldn’t she have done the same? Was I wrong to feel this way?

I sipped my coffee, watching the minutes tick by. By 2:30, I’d had enough. She hadn’t arrived, and I was starting to feel disrespected. So, I finished my coffee and left.

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At 2:45, another text came in. This time, she was asking, “Where are you? I’m here now.”

I replied, “I finished my coffee and left at 2:30 when you still weren’t here as promised.”

That’s when things got heated. She started sending me angry texts, saying how terrible I was for leaving and that I should have messaged her to say I was going. She said I’d done everything wrong and that I was in the wrong for not waiting.

But I couldn’t shake the feeling that it wasn’t fair. Do women really expect a guy to sit and wait for 45 minutes? And when the only reason they’re late is to make you wait? It felt like some kind of game or test, and I wasn’t playing. From my perspective, she had failed my test.

Now, I’d love to hear from women on this one—was I really wrong to leave when she was the one who didn’t show up on time? Or was this just an unfair situation from the start?