Becoming a mom at a young age was no walk in the park, but I faced the challenges head-on. Now, my daughter Rose, who’s 19, is expecting a baby, and it’s putting me in a tough spot.
Rose is a bright young woman. She had a scholarship to a great college and was doing well in her studies while living at home. Then she met this new boyfriend of hers. Honestly, I wasn’t a fan from the start.
He’s always letting her down, but somehow, his big smiles and empty promises keep her hooked. I warned her about him, but she’s still with him, and now she’s pregnant.
I even offered to cover the costs of an abortion and take care of her during recovery, but she turned me down. Instead, she wants to marry this guy, drop out of college, and have him move in with us while he works as a bartender.
I couldn’t help but laugh at that idea, which upset her.
Then she dropped another bombshell: “Since he can’t move in, you’ll need to help more with the baby.” I was speechless. Rose has always been sensible, and I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.
I told her straight, “If you’re adult enough to get married and have a baby, you’re adult enough to move out and do it with him.”
I’ve already raised my child, and I’m not keen on raising another baby in my home.
I made it clear: I’ll chip in with diapers occasionally and visit, but I’m not taking on the baby responsibilities. If she considers adoption, I’m here to support her decision.
Now she’s not talking to me. My husband, her stepdad, thinks I should do more, but I quickly shut that down by suggesting he could help babysit if he wanted.
I remember having Rose at 19. My husband was in the military, and I still managed to graduate college on time. But Rose’s situation is different. Her boyfriend can’t even secure health insurance for them.
Despite what others suggest, I’m standing firm: I won’t have a baby living in my house, and I’m not signing up for babysitting duty.
I’ll be the fun grandma who shows up at birthdays and spoils the kids with gifts, but that’s where I draw the line.
2 thoughts on “I’m Not Helping My Pregnant 19-Year-Old Daughter with Her Infant”
I agree that the responsibility lies with the daughter but the first consideration has to be what is in the best interest of the child Only those who know all parties involved can decide that Next consider the effect decisions will have on the future of your relationship with your daughter, your husband and grandchild
The mom has made the right decision for her! But now you have to put everyone involved on hold, because the baby comes first. That is the only one I care about. As for the boyfriend kick him to the CURB!