I need an outside opinion on a heated argument between my husband (32M) and me (30F). We’ve been married for two years and have always split our expenses equally. Before my maternity leave, our monthly expenses included $1500 for rent, about $200 for utilities, and some miscellaneous costs.
Recently, we had a beautiful baby boy named Ethan. He’s already three months old, and taking care of him keeps me busy all the time. I haven’t had a chance to look for part-time work yet.
When I asked my husband to cover all our expenses during my unpaid maternity leave, he was completely against it. He said, “We promised to split everything evenly, and I’m still working. It’s only fair that you pay half. You may not be working right now, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t contribute financially.”
I was shocked by his response. I am the primary caregiver for our newborn, and it seems unreasonable to expect me to pay half of our rent when I’m currently unemployed. The sleepless nights, constant feedings, and diaper changes have left me physically and emotionally drained.
Plus, we have extra expenses for diapers, formula, and doctor’s appointments for Ethan.
I’ve tried to explain that my unpaid maternity leave is temporary and that I’ll start looking for part-time work as soon as I can. Meanwhile, I suggested that he cover my part of the rent until I can contribute financially again.
But he insists on splitting everything equally, saying he’s already covering extra expenses for the baby.
I understand the importance of financial responsibility, but I feel like my husband isn’t considering the significant workload I have as a new mom.
Am I wrong for expecting him to cover all the rent while I’m on unpaid maternity leave, given the circumstances?
