Let me share this wild story from my life. I’m Emma, 39, married to Tom for 15 years. He has a daughter, Suzan, who’s 18 from his previous marriage. I’ve been her stepmom since she was little, even though I never planned on being a mom myself.
So, picture my shock when Suzan told us she’s pregnant. Tom and I were totally floored. Suzan just started college to study medicine, and she’s not ready for a baby.
She lives with us, doesn’t pay rent, and now expects me to take care of her baby while she focuses on school. It feels pretty unfair since I’ve already sacrificed so much.
The baby’s dad is young too, living in another state. He’s promised to send $200 a month and visit when he can. I thought maybe Suzan could move in with him and they could raise the baby together.
But she shot that idea down fast. They’re not a couple, and she says they can’t afford it.
I had to be honest with her. I told Suzan I couldn’t raise her baby for her. It’s not my job. I advised her to figure something else out before the baby comes.
When Tom heard what I suggested, he shocked me by saying, “Well, you know, you either raise Suzan’s baby or prepare for divorce.” I couldn’t believe it. After 15 years, he put his daughter’s needs over our marriage without a second thought.
Suzan is now really upset and won’t speak to me. She even got her grandparents involved. They offered to help, but they’re too far from her college, so she turned them down. My in-laws are on her side, thinking I’m being cold and should just show her unconditional love. But I feel like I’ve given enough.
Now I’m stuck. I love Tom, but raising another baby from scratch that isn’t mine? That’s not what I signed up for.
What would you do if you were me?
9 thoughts on “My Stepdaughter Got Knocked Up and Wants Me to Take Care for Her Newborn”
I would tell your husband and stepdaughter to kick rocks. I wouldn’t raise her child for her. What an ultimatum…give him the divorce and move on.
She is the one that got pregnant she needs to figure it out there is no reason for you to raise that baby
I kick his behind out so fast with his daughter. You should not have to raise her child because she made a mistake. She wanted to play house now tell her to keep house. Lady stand your ground
Prepare for divorce
I would tell her, it was her choice to have sex with her boyfriend, not yours! Where’s her bio mom!?
As far as your husband, let him care for “his” grandchild!
Obviously neither one of them appreciate the sacrifices you’ve made, RUN!!!
Call his bluff ! You are not obligated to care for that child ! If he thinks he can care for a baby let him! !!
I would take the money from the boyfriend. I would also file for complete guardianship.
Im do confused. You have no children of your own. This is the one child that need your help now and you can’t step up. Maybe you need to reflect on yourself and see what the fucks going on.
not your problem, let her figure it out on her own